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Achieving Success: Is PTSD Paralyzing You? Here Are The Top 13 Tips On How To Cope More Effectively.

January 31, 2012 Achieve Success Academy One comment

Difficulties strengthen the mind, as well as labor does the body. Seneca

What is PTSD? 

Everyone is different. Therefore, everyone reacts differently to different experiences one encounters. Researchers suggest this disorder affects 5% of the U.S. population or 13 million Americans. By contrast, 3% of the population have cancer. It is expected that 8% of the U.S. population will suffer from or experience some form of PTSD in their life time.

Once associated mainly with the horrow of combat, PTSD has stretched to take in more frequent swerves along life’s road such as car crashes, house fires, sudden death of a loved one, witnessing a disaster. PTSD has broadened the model of mental illness to cover disturbances set off solely by external events, outside the mind. Anyone can be vulunerable.

PTSD has always existed, however we are hearing more and more about it with our returning heros. Hearing the experiences they are going through.

So how does PTSD affect us? I know from personal experience that PTSD caused me to distance myself from everyone, family, friends, co-workers, social events, caused me to isolate myself in all situations, caused me to have nightmares, anger and irritability issues, confusion, difficulty concentrating, flashbacks, suicidal and homocidal thoughts, thoughts of relieving pain with alcohol and drugs. I stopped being the fun-loving, happy go lucky, over-achiever I was. My life stopped dead in its tracks.

Below I wish provide you with some positive and negative coping methods. You obviously want to stay away from the negative ones. I did myself a major disservice by staying quiet for over 5yrs. I internalized everything which was causing me to implode. My life was like an airplane that instantly lost its rudder and was heading for earth in a nose dive. Don’t allow this. If you follow these steps, I assure you, you will overcome the adversity you are faced with. Your life will soon ascend to greater altitudes, which in turn means greater success, happiness, loving relationships and living a more meaningful, fulfilling life that you so deserve.

Look up and not down; look forward and not back; look out and not in; and lend a hand. E. E. Hale

Positive Coping Methods

* Learn as much about PTSD as you can. Do not avoid it.

* Talk to others that you trust and admire for support.

* Talk to your Physician about PTSD.

* Practice relaxation methods and techniques. Relieve your stress with exercise.

* Increase positive activities. Do things that give you joy.

* Stay away from and stop watching negativity. Turn off the Television (News) and pick up and self-help book that will assist you in becoming a better human being.

* Set positive goals for yourself. Example: To read a book a week, to surround yourself with positive, successful people.

* Take prescribed medication to tackle PTSD. Listen to your Doctor.

* Join a PTSD support group

Negative Coping Methods-STAY AWAY From

* Use of alcohol and drugs to relieve your pain. It only enhances it!

* Social Isolation

* Continued Avoidance

* Anger-Like Isolation

Be the change you want in your life. Focus on being a positive role model for your children, support group, co-workers.

You can do this! You can accomplish anything you put your mind, heart and soul into. If I can do this, so can you.

I’m John R. Salkowski, Founder of Achieve Success Academy, Retired Police Officer, Survivor of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), Leading Authority on Conquering your fear, overcoming your adversity, achieving greater success in your life, Speaker, Entrepreneur and Self-Made Man.

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Achieving Success: The Top 10 Communication Skills You Must Master For Success

January 27, 2012 Achieve Success Academy One comment

Take advantage of every opportunity to practice your communication skills so that when important occasions arise, you will have the gift, the style, the sharpness, the clarity, and the emotions to affect other people~Jim Rohn

The Importance of Effective Communication
Communication is the most important part of our lives whether it be in business or personal. How you communicate with others will determine your success or failure. Think about this, we couldn’t accomplish very much without communicating with others.
Below, I will give you what I believe are the TOP 10 ways to Effective Communication. If you master these skills your success in all areas of your life will be virtually guaranteed. But first and most importantly, you must be adaptable to the 4 different personalities. I know we all cringe when we hear the word “Sales”. Think about this for a minute, we are all in sales in some form or fashion. Wouldn’t you agree? We are always trying to make someone do what we want them to do, right? Whether it’s asking your children to clean their rooms or asking the local coffee shop to make your coffee in a special way. They way we go about communicating what we want or don’t want will determine our success.
Personalities
We all have different personalities. Once I learned out to present to the 4 different personalities my success went through the roof and so will yours. Here they are:
1) Amiable=helpful, calm, discreet, team player, too sensitive,
2) Promoter=fun loving, charming, love people, scattered, always overbooked, speak before they think
3) Analytical=meticulous, accurate, dependable, dry humor, too critical, picky, over analyzes
4) Controller=high achiever, too bossy, natural leader, rude, blunt
When presenting to these different personalities, adapt to them. They will not adapt to you.
Top 10 Communication Skills You MUST Master
1) Be Friendly-People who communicate with a friendly tone and warm smile almost always have the edge. The reason is simple: we are subconsciously drawn to people who are friendly because they make us feel good and bring more enjoyment to our lives.
2) Think before you speak- A fanmous English Proverb is “Better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.” I find that many people say whatever goes through their minds without putting any thought into what they are saying. As a result they say things that end up reflecting poorly on themselves.
3) Be Clear- Most of us don’t have the time nor do we want to spend our emotional energy to figure out what someone else is trying to say. People who are indirect in their verbal communication and who tend to hint at things without saying what’s really on their mind are seldom respected. When there is something you want to say, ask yourself, “What is the clearest way I can communicate this point?”
4) Be Authentic- People are turned off by those people who feel the need to put on a show to make their point. Instead, people are attracted to someone who speaks from the heart and is genuine, transparent, and real.
5) Practice Humility-Humility is having a modest view of one’s own importance. It is one of the most attractive personality traits one can possess and is one of the most significant predictors of someone who is respected. People who speak with humility and genuine respect for others are almost always held in high regard.
6) Don’t talk too much-The more one talks the less impressive they are. Very few people like to be around someone who talks too much and dominates the conversation. We have too ears for a reason.
7) Speak with confidence-You don’t have to sacrifice self-confidence to practice humility. Confidence is a self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s true abilities, whereas humility is having a modest opinion of one’s own importance. Speaking with confidence includes the words you choose, the tone of your voice, your eye contact, and body language.
8) Pay attention to your body language-When you are engaged in face-to-face verbal communication, your body language can play as significant of a role in the message you communicate as the words you speak. Your body language communicates respect and interest.  It puts real meaning behind your words.
9) Be concise and too the point-Very few things are more irritating to me than when someone can’t get to the point of what he or she is trying to say. Plan ahead. Constantly ask yourself, “How can I say what needs to be said using the fewest number of words possible while still being courteous and respectful?”
10) Be present-Being an attentive listener is more important in verbal communication than any words that can come out of your mouth. You must show a sincere interest in what is being said, ask good questions, listen for the message within the message, and avoid interrupting.
These skills are learnable. If you practice and master these skills your success in all areas of your life is virtually guaranteed.

I’m John R. Salkowski, Founder of Achieve Success Academy, Retired Cop, Survivor of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) Leading Authority on Overcoming Adversity & Fear, Achieving Greater Success & Finding Your WHY Power. Entrepreneur, Speaker and Self-Made Man.

I can be reached via email at John@JohnSalkowski.com for questions or comments. To hire John for your next speaking engagement, please send email to this address.

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Achieving Success: Are You A Good Human Being?

January 25, 2012 Achieve Success Academy One comment

Be a good human being, a warm-hearted affectionate person. That is my fundamental belief. Having a sense of caring, a feeling of compassion will bring happiness of peace of mind to oneself and automatically create a positive atmosphere~Dalai Lama

Are You A Good Human Being?

Can you honestly look yourself in the mirror and say, “I am a good person”. At the end of the day, month, year or even as your life comes to an end, can you honestly look back and say to yourself, “I am/was a good human being”. Have you honestly and truly done right by everyone? Have you treated everyone fairly and respectfully?

Being successful has nothing to do with being good or bad. But I truly believe in what you reap, you sow. Being a good human being to me comes down to morality and values. It has nothing to do with how much money you make, possessions you have or don’t have, the size of home you live in, the type of car you drive, the size of your bank account.

Have you ever done anyone wrong? Have you ever done something to benefit yourself when it didn’t benefit the other person? Have you, so called, stabbed someone in the back to get ahead? Have you ever bad mouthed another person to someone of higher authority to make yourself look better? Have you ever brown nosed someone to get that promotion, get that better position, get that raise? Can your true friends count on you for being there for them? Are these statements even relevant with being a good human being? I believe as long as you do all things with the highest level of integrity, you can’t wrong.

Someone’s good might not be good to another. Everyone has their own interpretation of what a good human being stands for. Would you agree that everyone is out for themselves? I would agree that they are. However, what matters is how far one takes it.

I believe we all have that 6th sense of whether we can recognize a good human being when we see one. Just because someone has a different personality than we do, doesn’t mean they are a bad person. Just because someone has a different outlook on money, politics, religion, sex, race or work ethic doesn’t necessarily mean they are bad. Would you agree?

What I have learned over the course of my life is that everyone is different and that we should not judge someone because they are different. Some are good human beings and some are bad human beings. My definition of good and bad will differ from some, however here are my opinions of what I believe makes a good human being.

What Makes A Good Human Being.

* Being honest in all you do.

* Being trustworthy in all you do.

* Being respectful to ALL.

* Lover of all people.

* Being a kind person to all walks of life including animals.

* Being compassionate towards others.

* Being empathetic with people.

* Having integrity in everything you do. Not just in public but behind closed doors as well.

* Having NO part in the 4 negative emotions: fear, anger, hatred & jealousy. Even though we all experience these emotions from time to time, they are like cancer. They will eat you from the inside out.

* Not taking advantage of someone who may know less about a certain topic or business.

* Being helpful towards ALL.

* Giving someone your undivided attention. Treat them as if they are the only ones on the planet.

* Being gentle, kind, caring toward the elderly.

* Being generous.

* Being flexible in life and business.

* Being humble. Not arrogant or cocky.

* Being confident in who you are and what you do.

* Being of solid character.

* Being non-judgemental.

* Being positive in all you do.

* Being moral in all you do.

* Have good values.

* Don’t judge another human being until you have walked in their shoes.

I’m John R. Salkowski, Founder of Achieve Success Academy, Retired Cop, Survivor of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) Leading Authority on Overcoming Fear & Adversity, Finding Your WHY Power & Achieving Greater Success. Entrepreneur, Speaker and Self-Made Man.

I can be reached via email at John@JohnSalkowski.com for questions, comments as well as speaking engagements.

 

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Achieving Success: Your #1 New Years Resolution Should Be To Do This Everyday!

January 20, 2012 Achieve Success Academy No comments

Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable… Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Why You MUST Set Goals?

Goal setting is used by top-level athletes, successful business-people and achievers in all fields. Setting goals gives you long-term vision and short-term motivation. It focuses your acquisition of knowledge, and helps you to organize your time and your resources so that you can make the very most of your life.

By setting sharp, clearly defined goals, you can measure and take pride in the achievement of those goals, and you’ll see forward progress in what might previously have seemed a long pointless grind. You will also raise your self-confidence as you recognize your own ability and competence in achieving the goals that you’ve set.

SMART Goals

A great way of making goals more powerful is to use the SMART mnemonic. SMART  stands for:

  • S – Specific (or Significant).
  • M – Measurable (or Meaningful).
  • A – Attainable (or Action-Oriented).
  • R – Relevant (or Rewarding).
  • T – Time-bound (or Trackable).

For example, instead of having ”To earn $100,000 this year” as a goal, it’s more powerful to say ” I earn $100,000 by December 31, 2012.” Obviously, this will only be attainable if you have a plan and action steps in order.

Staying The Course

Once you’ve decided on your first set of goals, keep the goal process going by reviewing and updating your To-Do List on a daily basis. This is a MUST.

Periodically review the longer term plans, and modify them to reflect your changing priorities and experience.

Goal Setting Tips

The following Tips will help you to set effective, achievable goals:

  • State each goal as a positive statement – Express your goals positively
  • Be precise: Set precise goals, putting in dates, times and amounts so that you can measure achievement.
  • Set priorities – When you have several goals, give each a priority. This helps you to avoid feeling overwhelmed by having too many goals and helps to direct your attention to the most important ones.
  • Write goals down – This crystallizes them and gives them more force.
  • Keep operational goals small – Keep the low-level goals that you’re working towards small and achievable. If a goal is too large, then it can seem that you are not making progress towards it. Keeping goals small and incremental which gives more opportunities for reward.
  • Set performance goals, not outcome goals – You should set goals over which you have as much control as possible. If you base your goals on personal performance, then you can keep control over the achievement of your goals and draw satisfaction from them.
  • Set realistic goals – It’s important to set goals that you can achieve. If not, you are setting yourself up for failure.

Goal setting is an important method of:

  • Deciding what you want to achieve in your life.
  • Separating what’s important from what’s irrelevant, or a distraction.
  • Motivating/Inspiring yourself.
  • Building your self-confidence based on successful achievement of goals.

Set your lifetime goals first. Then set a five-year plan of smaller goals that you need to complete if you are to reach your lifetime plan. Keep the process going by regularly reviewing and updating your goals. And remember to take time to enjoy the satisfaction of achieving your goals when you do so.

If you don’t already set goals for yourself, you need to do so starting NOW. Making this  part of your daily life, you’ll find your career/life/realtionships accelerating and you’ll wonder why you didn’t do this years ago.

I’m John R. Salkowski, Founder of Achieve Success Academy, Retired Police Officer, Survivor of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) Leading Authority on Overcoming Adversity, Finding Your WHY Power & Achieving Greater Success. Entrepreneur, Speaker and Self-Made Man.

I can be reached via email at John@JohnSalkowski.com for questions, comments and speaking engagements.

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A Must Have Value of a Successful Person

January 20, 2012 Achieve Success Academy 3 comments

Achievement of your happiness is the only moral purpose of your life, and that happiness, not pain or mindless self-indulgence, is the proof of your moral integrity, since it is the proof and the result of your loyalty to the achievement of your values.
Ayn Rand

Integrity is a value, like persistence, courage and industriousness. Even more so, it’s the value that guarantees all the other values. You’re a good person to the degree for which you live your life consistent with the highest values that you espouse. Integrity is the quality that locks in your values and causes you to live consistent with them.
Integrity is the foundation of character and character development is one of the most important activities you can engage in. Working on your character means disciplining yourself to do more and more of those things that a thoroughly honest person would do, under all circumstances.
To be impeccably honest with others, you must first be impeccably honest with yourself. You must be true to yourself. You must be true to the very best that is in you, to the very best that you know. A person who is living consistent with his or her highest values and virtues is really living a life of integrity. And when you commit to living this kind of life, you will find yourself continually raising your own standards, continually refining your definition of integrity.
You can tell how high your level of integrity is by simply looking at the things you do in your day-to-day life. You can look at your reactions and responses to the inevitable ups and downs of life. You can observe the behaviors you typically engage in and you’ll then know the person you are.
The most important rule you’ll ever learn is that your life only becomes better when you become better.
Your life should be lived from the inside out. At the very core of your personality lie your values about yourself and life in general. Your values determine the kind of person you really are. What you believe defines your character and your personality. It’s what you stand for, and what you won’t stand for. That tells you and the world what kind of person you really are.
Napoleon Hill, in his book, The Master Key to Riches, tells about how he created an imaginary board of personal advisors made up of great figures of history. He chose people like Lincoln, Jesus, and Alexander the Great. Whenever he had to make a decision, he would relax deeply and then imagine that the members of his advisory council were sitting at a large table in front of him. He would then ask them what he should do to deal effectively with a particular situation. In time, they would begin to give him answers, observations, and insights that helped him to see more clearly and act more effectively.
You can do the same thing. Select someone that you admire very much for their qualities of courage, tenacity, honesty or wisdom. Ask yourself, What would they do in my situation? You will find yourself with guidance that enables you to be the very best person that you can possible be.
Your integrity is manifested in your willingness to adhere to the values you hold most dear. It’s easy to make promises but very hard to keep them. However, if you do, every single act of integrity will make your character a little stronger. As you improve the quality and strength of your character, every other part of your life will improve as well.
Integrity has to do with your commitments to others. Always keep your word. Be a man or a woman of honor. If you say that you will do something, do it. If you make a promise, keep it. If you make a commitment, fulfill it. Be known as the kind of person that can be trusted absolutely, no matter what the circumstances.

I’m John R. Salkowski, Founder of Achieve Success Academy, Retired Cop, Survivor of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) Leading Authority on Overcoming Adversity, Finding Your WHY Power & Achieving Greater Success. Entrepreneur, Speaker and Self-Made Man.

I can be reached via email at John@AchieveSuccessAcademy.com for Speaking Engagements.

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Achieving Success: The Top Skill That Successful People Have Mastered

January 14, 2012 Achieve Success Academy One comment

“What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters, compared to what lies within us.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

What is MIND-SET?

Our mind-set is our mental attitude that has taken shape based on our life experiences, our environment, our education and the ideas and beliefs we have absorbed from those people we have interacted with the most in our lives.

Whether we are aware of it or not, we all keep a running account or self talk of what is happening to us, what it means, and what we should do about it. Our mind-set is that inner voice conversation taking place in our heads. (You have all heard me say before, “Listen to your inner-voice”)

Our minds are meaning seeking machines and we are constantly monitoring and interpreting events and stimuli so that we can reinforce or modify our internal ‘map’ of ourselves and the world as we have come to understand them. Based on these beliefs our mind-set is responsible for how we interpret and react to what happens to us and around us.

Depending on whether your inner voice is based on a positive empowering mind-set or a negative limiting one, will largely determine how you will interpret challenges, setbacks and criticisms in life as well as contributing significantly to the actual outcomes and results you create.

The correct mind-set is perhaps THE most important factor in human success. Above all else! The difference between successful people and non-successful people starts in their mind, with their predominant mind-set.

Often it is our predominant thoughts and feelings about ourselves and the world around us that are the key to unlocking our life’s true possibilities.

When MIND-SETS are Formed?

Mind-sets are based on our beliefs. Our beliefs about ourselves and the world. These beliefs are created in two ways. Firstly by what we are taught when we are young and easily impressed and secondly by the experiences and results we have, see and observe in everyday life.

Where MIND-SET comes into Play?

In everything we do we have some pre-conceived ideas about the possible outcomes and chances for success. No matter if it is a small or large undertaking we are constantly evaluating our results and placing them within our map of ourselves and the world. Our mind-sets affect everything we do and influence not only our view of the outcome, but also the outcome itself.

Why MIND-SET affects Behavior and Success?

Having the correct mind-set for a particular task is almost a pre-requisite for success. No one has ever been successful who has not had to overcome hurdles and obstacles to that success. The ability to have an empowering and positive outlook and mind-set allows us to not only overcome those hurdles and obstacles to success but to actually welcome them as challenges and opportunities for growth and learning.

How to change Your MIND-SET?

We all have the ability to change our mind-set – to change our core inner beliefs upon which we based our view of ourselves and the world around us. But changing our beliefs is not an easy thing to do. Most people find changing one small belief extremely difficult, let alone a whole range of self-supporting beliefs based perhaps on negative pre-conditioning. What is needed is a tool – a tool for change, that enable us to rapidly install new thought patterns and positive mind-sets, based on proven success models. A person’s core inner beliefs and thought patterns are what lead to their feelings of potentiality, action and results.

Simply by changing your mind-set it is possible to change not only your outlook in life by also the actual results you obtain in life.

Here are 3 Ways to Change Your MIND-SET!

1) Be Willing to Change: These are your thoughts so you can change them. Even though our beliefs were more than likely formed when you were young, you are an adult today and you have the power to affect change in your life. This is the essence of personal power: choice and responsibility.

2) Feed The Mind-Set You Want: The fastest way to change your mind-set is to feed your mind the one you want. Every time you feed yourself a positive mind-set, it weakens the negative ones. You will be instantly creating new neurons that form a new more positive neural network. The more you do this the stronger you new neural network will become. Feeding the positive weakens the negative.

3) Love Your Mind-Set: Allow yourself to create a passion for your new mind-set. The new mind-set you want to create. Doing this creates endorphins in your body that lead to a new sense of well being. This in turn leads to a more inspired and emotionally engaged you, having more fun in your life as you enlarge and make stronger your new neural network.

Start Today to Change Your MIND-SET for the Better and Watch Your Success Skyrocket!

I’m John R. Salkowski, Founder of Achieve Success Academy, Leading Authority on Peak Performance,  Overcoming Adversity, Achieving Greater Success & Finding Your WHY Power. Real Estate Entrepreneur, Retired Cop and Survivor of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)

I can be reached via email at John@JohnSalkowski.com for Questions and Speaking Engagements.

 

 

 

Achieving Success: Top 7 Tips For Living A More Meaningful & Fulfilling Life

January 9, 2012 Achieve Success Academy One comment

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A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life~Charles Darwin
I believe it’s in our nature to want to please everyone we can, make them happy, help them. Make them proud of us. However, when we do this, our life often suffers. Our loved ones suffer. The time we are given suffers. Our work and sometimes our health suffers because of it. We need to stop pleasing everyone and start pleasing ourselves. Start living our own life. A more meaningful, fulfilling life that we can look back on and say, “I did my part for society, but I also lived a fulfilling life”. Often we get wrapped up in things that don’t matter. Time wasters if you will. As I sometimes call it, “time eaters”. Time eaters are people who have one agenda and one agenda only. Themselves. They could care less about your agenda.
There are only so many minutes and hours in a day. Before you know it, a week, a month, a year has past. You will look back and say, “what have I accomplished”, “where has all the time gone”. Before you know it, you’re sitting on a rocker at a ripe old age wondering, did I really live my life to the fullest. We don’t want to say ”I didn’t live my life, others lived my life”.
I’m all for helping others and making a huge difference in others lives. Making an impact in other lives is a great feeling. Knowing that you have impacted someone for the better is an awesome feeling. Knowing that you gave back to society is a wonderful feeling. However, we only have one life to live. What’s it going to take for us to realize that we’re only on this beautiful earth for a short time. We don’t want to live with any regrets. When our time comes, we want to ask ourselves, did I make a difference, did I love passionately and did I live a fulfulling life. Our answer should be Yes to all of them.
Here are 7 Tips for living with NO regrets-Living YOUR Life:
1) Don’t Buy Happiness-If you believe money is the secret sauce to happiness, consider this: According to a University of Illinois study, the Forbes 400 (the wealthiest billionaires in America) and the Maasai tribes of East Africa (simple, pastoral herdsmen) exhibit the same levels of happiness, regardless of their monetary differences. In plain English: Money doesn’t buy happiness.
2) Get Together With Friends & Loved Ones Often-Could getting together and having fun save your life? Maybe so, when you consider that loneliness is a life-threatening condition that can raise your risk of heart disease and depression. It helps to have a close group of friends, but it’s also important to interact with people outside that circle. Every kind of positive interaction, from smiling at the waitress to chatting with a stranger can boost your mood.
3) Weekend Get Aways-Spare some time away for a weekend trip. This WILL boost your mood and productivity.
4) Make The Little Things Count-We are often on auto-pilot and don’t appreciate the small things in life. Hey, you woke up in a warm home, you have hot water, you have food in the fridge, you have someone that loves you. Stop for a moment and appreciate how blessed you truly are.
5) Pursue Your Passion-Do WHAT you LOVE. Stop living for others. Life’s too SHORT.
6) Forgive Yourself-Focus on the PRESENT, FUTURE,  NOT the past.
7) Live In The Moment-Be PRESENT in ALL you DO! Look that person in the eyes and pay attention to what they are saying. Stop looking around when someone is talking too you. Treat that person as if they were the only human being alive. Kneel down and kiss your child and tell them you love them more than life. Lay on the floor and play checkers with your best friend. Without being PRESENT you’ll lose out on 90% of your life.

I’m John R. Salkowski, Founder of Achieve Success Academy, Leading Authority on Peak Performance, Achieving Greater Success, Overcoming Adversity & Finding Your WHY Power, Speaker, Entrepreneur, Retired Cop and Survivor of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)

I can be reached via email at John@JohnSalkowski.com for questions and Speaking Engagements.

Achieving Success: Top 6 Steps in Overcoming The Fear of Success

January 2, 2012 Achieve Success Academy 2 comments

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Fears are nothing more than a state of mind. Napoleon Hill

 

The one quote that resonates with me that has changed my mindset in overcoming fear is, “Do the thing you fear & the death of fear is certain. We all have a fear of something. The majority of the population fears success. Why? I believe people fear success because it not only takes hard work, discipline, dedication and perseverance it also takes courage to overcome the 6 Fears of Success. Below are the 6 Fears that play an intrical part in NOT achieving great things. Follow the solutions, work on them, implement the strategies and encourage failure. You will fail along the way but know that failure is a stepping stone to your success. Once you conquer the 6 Fears of Success, your success is virtually guaranteed.

 

The Six Fears of Success and How to Overcome them.

Determine which Fear is holding you back and resolve to take it back.

1. Fear of Failure. This is the greatest of all fears. Fear of failure keeps people from trying new ventures. The fear that they may fail therefore choosing not to take risk.
Solution: Do your homework, however do not over analyze to where it causes paralyzes. Once you learn more about it, be decisive in your actions. It requires a reframe that failure is a normal stage in achievement.

2. Fear of Embarrassment. People who fear embarrassment have typically experienced a time in their childhood that was humiliating in which they filed the memory and said to themselves, “I will never feel that way again or put myself in that position.” Solution: Practice self-talk, self-affirmations. “I can do this, I can accomplish this, I can achieve this”, are a few examples.

3. Fear of Rejection. People who fear rejection have experienced the feeling therefore resulting in low self-esteem. Solution: Realize that rejection is about the other person. It’s about their own insecurities. Know that you are a great person and that rejection is a part of life. Do not let rejection stop you from achieving your dreams. It takes a healthy ego to know that rejection is a normal part of life.

4. Fear of Hurting Others. There is a saying, “If you fail to plan, your plan will fail.” Solution: People who fear hurting others need to plan so that they can continue to meet the needs of others and still pursue their dreams. Make sure the people in your life know how much your Goal(s) mean to you. Do your homework.

5. Fear of Success. Some people have low self-esteem for whatever reason and may fall into the category that they aren’t worthy of success. They fear how their life will be different if they succeed. They decide to stay in the same old place to avoid their own potential for greatness. Solution: Positive Self-Affirmations, Self-Talk can do wonders in reprogramming your thoughts and mindset.

6. Fear of The Unknown. I call these people the “half empties”. There glass is always half empty as opposed as half full. People who fear the unknown usually catastrophize and fear the worst instead of counting on the best. Solution: I am a true believer of what will be, will be. Things happen for a reason. Place your fears in the hands of a higher power and understand what is meant to be will be.

I’m John R. Salkowski, Founder of Achieve Success Academy, Real Estate Entrepreneur, Leading Authority on Achieving Greater Success and Overcoming Adversity, Retired Cop and Survivor of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)

I can be reached via email at John@JohnSalkowski.com for questions and Speaking Engagements.